8.21.2009

There are Times.

Being a mother is hard sometimes. Being a homemaker is hard sometimes. Running a home is hard sometimes. And sometimes, doing all three really sucks (pardon my language)

There are days when it feels like no one appreciates what you do. There are days when it's even worse and you feel like no one respects what you do. And you're just tired. Tired of the messes that appear instantaneously in the exact spot you just cleaned. Tired of the screaming, and the crying. Tired of feeling like you want to scream... and cry.

There are times when you wish that just once someone would show up unexpectedly at your house and it would be clean. Just once. Instead of people always showing up when it's not. And you laugh it off, and you apologize, but there are times you think "I bet they don't believe me when I say it was just barely clean."

There are days when you are tired of people judging you. Tired of thinking people judge you. Tired of worrying about what others think. There are days when you're tired of judging yourself.

There are times when you wish time would just slow down and let you catch your breath. There are times when you wish time would slow down and let you keep your little girl , just right here in this little moment. And then there are the uncountable times when you wish you could just go back and do it all over again, but this time do it better. Do it the way you thought you would do it before you got in the way. Be the mom, the wife, the home maker you thought you were going to be, instead of the reality of the one you are.

There are days when it just all boils to a head, all the stress, all the frustration, all the fatigue, all the loneliness, all the insecurity, all the guilt... yeah, all the guilt.

I'm just saying, sometimes there are those times. Sometimes.
And sometimes, it's comforting to know that others have those times as well, because other people do.
And maybe they don't.
But I know that there are times that I sure do.


10 comments:

Monica said...

So glad to know I'm not alone. Hang in there :)

Wurtz Gang said...

Luv you sista! I tried calliny earlier but you weren't answering. I'm sure your doing better now but know that I LOVE YOU and when I grow up I wanna be like you!

Courtney and Andrew said...

Glad to know wonderful moms like you feel the same way as I do!! I think we wouldn't be good moms and wives if we didn't feel that way sometimes!

Ross & Amanda Goodman- but mostly Amanda :) said...

Oh, I have those times. I have less guilt about it now though, knowing one of my mommy idols does as well. You are amazing, Brittany!

Perpetual Mommy Exhaustion said...

You know why I like you? Because you use the word "sucks" and apologize for it. Awesome.

Jill said...

I think every mother has those moments. They come more frequently when the kids are little. At least they did for me. As my children grew, I grew to understand that all I could do was my best and then try again. You are an amazing mother. Way better than I ever was. I love you. Chin UP!!

Webster Family said...

This makes me want to come to Idaho and just hug you!!! You put this perfectly!!! Tell Brandon and the kiddo's hi. (by the this is Michelle, Brandon's cousin)

Sara Hirschi said...

Brittany, if you only knew how much I admire you! I think you are an amazing mother and wife! You always do such fun things with your kids and they know you love them so much! And we can see it too! And you are so talented and crafty! And you write beautifully! Have you ever thought of writing a book?! Seriously, every post on your blog is awesome! And the list goes on! I don't know if I ever told you before, but I really do admire you!

Unknown said...

Thanks for voicing the thoughts that we all have. Nothing easy is ever worth it.

Someday they will all be grown and on their own and we will wonder what to do with ourselves.

moana said...

okay, so I'm a little late responding and surprisingly enough I was thinking about you and this exact "circumstance". Honest. Just this morning. Just how crazy life is as a mom. Honestly, it is our refiner's fire. But any of my kids would be happy to live in your house - not sure if you would survive them. Just wated to share this YouTube I came across this morning. I hope it works, if not, let me know.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wz41YxNiHEg
Excellent message of hope.

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